For many of us in the community we have to keep those fears our whole lives like that masks that we are forced to wear. I too am forced to wear the mask so much so that it has become second nature. I always hold out hope that one day it won't matter and everyone will see us for who we really are and not someone that has to hide almost in plain sight.
|Unnamed cross dresser|
We talk about "trans-dar" often in Cyrsti's Condo, and for years I often wondered about the "pretty men" I observed who were thin and had no eye brows to speak of. Maybe they were the ones with seemingly a zillion "selfie's" on certain photo sites.
As I got better, I began to look at where the photos were taken (always in the same room) or out in the world. Then, were the pictures taken by a professional photographer and finally, were they actually a genetic woman or not. (Pinterest has gobs and bunches of those!) But look, they are pictures-a moment in time, no more, no less.
Finally, I came to a point which in essence is what Michelle was commenting about: how many of us hide in plain site. Those of us who are the Kristin Beck's of the cross dressing or transgender world and cover ourselves with a deep layer of macho camouflage.
Surely I will never know. If you take the Condo for example, I can't remember ever having a response from here in Ohio. The closest I have came is from Shelle over in Indiana who I haven't heard from and hope is OK. Facebook is worse. Someday I'm going to have to go through my reasonably local "friends" and delete all of those who have gone.
Finally, I know too, if there is a cross dresser hiding in plain site across the street from me-she has a reason to be there. Plus, chances are she may labor under that well worn (and true) idea that we transgender women "look down" on cross dressers. It just so happens I don't.
Michelle, thanks for the comment!