tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8394500434240060127.post977956522309282602..comments2024-03-25T09:14:02.523-04:00Comments on Cyrsti's Condo: Transgender Support GroupCyrsti Harthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17176333752728572030noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8394500434240060127.post-30135756854288443262018-02-21T13:07:21.283-05:002018-02-21T13:07:21.283-05:00When I've been mis-gendered or had my dead nam...When I've been mis-gendered or had my dead name used in the past (it hasn't happened since changing my name and gender markers), while in a waiting room, I would always stay seated for a few seconds and not respond to the call. People in waiting rooms tend to look up upon hearing anyone's name, but they go back to their magazine within a few seconds. I always figured that I would be contributing to the outing of myself had I responded immediately, and waiting just those few seconds allowed me to discreetly answer the call. Of course, timing is everything, as I needed to also make eye contact with the caller before she or he repeated. After we were in a private place, I would correct them politely. <br /><br />My spouse works in a dentists office. They are careful to be respectful of trans patients, and they clearly mark charts pertaining to preferred name and pronouns. Just a couple weeks ago, though, there was a new assistant in the office for a one-day "working interview." While calling the trans woman patient to the back, she did use the proper name, but she blew the encounter - and her interview - by proclaiming: "You don't look like a man at all!" I think she meant it as a compliment, but it just goes to show that even the well-intentioned can be ignorant, misinformed or uninformed. Of course, there are plenty of people who are just plain stupid, as well.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.com