tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8394500434240060127.post8280207865436561433..comments2024-03-25T09:14:02.523-04:00Comments on Cyrsti's Condo: To Be ...or Not To BeCyrsti Harthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17176333752728572030noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8394500434240060127.post-90584220929242180552017-12-21T12:13:36.174-05:002017-12-21T12:13:36.174-05:00Mirrors and pics are two-dimensional. Depending up...Mirrors and pics are two-dimensional. Depending upon them to affirm a trans woman's femininity leaves that femininity two-dimensional, as well. One of my favorite things to say is that a trans woman can't really see herself fully until she sees her own reflection in the eyes of others. Reaching the third dimension requires much effort - even more than all of the primping and posing it takes to make a good picture. Simply attempting to achieve a physically passing appearance becomes, at some point, a flat existence. <br /><br />I know there are many who would argue that their cross dressing experiences are not flat and two-dimensional. They might say that their feminine self is nothing more than an extension of their three-dimensional male self. I understand it because, well, "been there, done that." As for myself, I had reached a point where even that was making me feel flat - no matter what gender I was showing myself to be. Even when I was living 80% as my feminine self, I was really no better than 50/50, because I had to be ready to make the change, either way, sometimes at a moment's notice. I felt like I was in a limbo, and I was not a good example of a woman or a man. Yes, I was cheating myself of a full, three-dimensional life, but, worse than that, I was cheating family and friends of my full self and the attention they deserved. Showing myself in a selfie, or, more to the point, as a selfie, was selfish and disingenuous. That is not what I ever want to be again. <br /><br />Maybe, someday, I will reach a fifth dimension - about the time of the dawning of the age of Aquarius? (dating myself once again) :-) Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.com